Nigerian woman, Blessing Paulinus, has taken to social media to publicly call out her ex-husband for allegedly abandoning their two children for over a decade, accusing him of providing no form of support since their separation nearly 11 years ago.
In a strongly worded Facebook post shared on May 16, Blessing recounted her struggles as a single mother, claiming she has been solely responsible for her daughters’ education, healthcare, feeding, clothing, and every other financial need without a single contribution from their father.
“It’s been almost 11 years of doing every single thing alone,” she wrote. “School, medical, feeding, clothes — every single bill.”
According to Blessing, after the collapse of their marriage, her ex-husband allegedly vowed to make life difficult for her and her family, refusing all attempts at co-parenting despite her repeated appeals over a three-year period.
She revealed that the man turned his back on their first child when she was just five years old. Now 15, the teenager, along with her sibling, has grown up without financial or emotional support from their father.
Blessing also disclosed that she has legally changed her children’s birth certificates and state of origin, cutting all ties with her former partner. “I’ve done everything on my own, and I won’t share credit with someone who’s been completely absent,” she declared.
She concluded her post by embracing the label of “bitter single mom” often thrown at women in similar circumstances. “Yes, I wear it with my full chest. Deal with it!” she wrote defiantly.
Full post:
It’s been almost 11 years of doing every single thing ALONE.
Hol up!
I mean, 11 solid years of doing School o, medical o, feeding o, clothes o, girls necessities and EVERY SINGLE BILL ALONE and you think I’ll go through all of that and allow my self share the glory with that kind of irresponsible nonentity?
Someone that said “shebi you think you’re stubborn, you think you have family, I’ll show you and your people shege and you come and beg me before you will see my one naira”.
Someone I literally begged and cajoled to coparent for 3 years since marriage didn’t work again but refused? Make I still dey waste energy wey I for use work on myself to stay alive ontop that kind person??
Someone that was wicked enough to turn his back on his kids when the first was barely 5 and she’s 15 now but still hasn’t looked back or sent in a dime since then?
You think these men don’t know what they’re doing? Lmao!
Make I come do all this finish and my pikin go dey bear your name?? I dey mahd?? Make I come share glory with deadbeat man?
Nsa Adiaha!!!
Nehi! we don’t do that here!
For children wey I been don go collect new birth certificates and change of state of origin for?
“When they grow, they will look for their father”.
No wam! Till then, but for now, Both have their nation examinations written with my name and I dey proud of myself like mahd!!!
“Bitter single mom”? Oh yes!
Carrying the tag with my full chest, so deal with it! 🫵🏾🫵🏾
The post has since sparked a wave of reactions online, with many commending her resilience and others debating the complexities of single parenting and fatherhood responsibility in Nigeria.
